{This is the story of a precious baby girl born sleeping on June 10th, 2014}
Written by her mother, Mary
[Below is a piece of her blog]
''On Monday, June 9th I started to have contractions. I called the dr. to see if I should go in and I was asked if I felt her kicking. Come to think of it, I didn't feel her much that day but I ate something sweet and waited for the kicks. Lily Jay was a kicker the whole 9 months and on June 9th, she stopped kicking. I thought it was weird but I was told it was probably because she had no more room to kick. Fair enough, that totally made sense. They asked if I wanted to come in or wait for the contractions to get stronger. I decided to go in and start this process to finally see my baby girl.
I checked into the hospital and when they went to check the heart beat, there was no sound. I was thinking, maybe thats not the right machine and they were looking for something else. Then the dr came in with the ultrasound machine. That was the moment our lives crumbled, there was no movement.
The dr. calmly said, "I'm sorry, there's no heart beat". I couldn't even cry because I was in such shock, I didn't understand how this can even happen. The dr. said, "It just does, it can just happen". He then explained that I would have to deliver her naturally since a c-section was pointless at this point. I begged to just have the surgery done because I didn't think I could mentally handle all of this. Unfortunately my crying and begging was denied and I prepared myself to deliver my precious Lily Jay.
The next day on June 10th at 5:17pm, after 24 hours of labor my little angel was born. Weighing 5lbs 15oz and 21inches, happiest moment of my life was the saddest day of my life. The baby I loved and carried for 9 months was gone. My body was empty, my arms were empty and now my heart was empty. She was literally the most beautiful baby I have ever seen and Im not just saying that because I created her. She looked JUST like my husband did as a baby and had his beautiful full hair. My husband and I spent time with her the next day and promised her that she would never be forgotten and she would always be our little girl.
Again, I am a believer in everything happening for a reason and I like to see Lily as only a positive in our lives. Although the outcome was not ideal, she made me and Johnny way better people. We got married, moved out of a less than ideal neighborhood, my husband went back to school at night and I left a stressful job. She made us realize that things that seemed to matter and make us upset, don't really matter. She made us appreciate life more, live life more and to not sweat the small stuff. We decided to have her cremated so that we can spread her ashes in places that make us happy. We live in San Francisco and love to drive up and down the coast. The weekend before she passed we took that long drive and talked about all the places we were going to take her. I will keep my promise and take her there, spread some of her ashes and just know that every time I see the ocean, she's there. Another way we want to honor her is to spread her ashes in the soil and grow lilies. The most important thing to me is to not let her be forgotten and I will honor my little ones life the best I can.
And to Lily Jay Lucatero, thank you. You have made both of your parents who they are today. Fly high my angel, mommy and daddy love you.'
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And to Lily Jay Lucatero, thank you. You have made both of your parents who they are today. Fly high my angel, mommy and daddy love you.'
Below is the link to her blog to follow her journey
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