.the first holidays.

{The first holidays and all of those after.}

The first holidays are the hardest, but in all reality - every holiday, event, special occasion, they are al hard without a loved one, especially a child that should be there who is not. 

Below are some tips or ideas on how to include your babies in those moments. To remind us - that the bonding experience doesn't have to end just because they are no longer with us. 

• Include them in photos with either their urn, photo or keepsake (i.e. teddy bear, pillow, etc)

• Put a stocking out for them - add something to it every year

• If you buy ornaments for the family, include one for them. Get one with their name or picture

• Buy them an outfit. If it was supposed to be baby's 1st Christmas, get that onesie and make that memory. 

• Include their name in the holiday card. 

• Write your child a letter. 

• Express your feelings to those in your support group. Don't feel like you can't talk about how you are feeling.

The holidays are are very emotional time and the added grief of losing a child can make them feel overwhelming - to a point where you may think you can't handle them. Remember to breathe and take a moment. Take a moment to just think about your child - take a moment to include them. Remember you are strong and that your child is always with you.